The most anticipated day in a person's life is generally the day that they FINALLY get married! It is exciting and often is described as the happiest day in their lives. An event that is probably, even more anticipated than the wedding day, is the wedding night and the honeymoon. For many couples this is actually a cause for anxiety. The fear of under performing, being too experienced, or inexperienced all of these things are reason for worry and even concern about the relationship. Women know that it is easy to please a man, and men for the most part are aware of the struggle it is to please a woman and because of this reason, many people get divorced.
Always the number one reason couples get divorced is because of sex. Sex of itself has become such a common thing that for many people its a big concern for how things are in their personal life. Pornography and even PG-13 and R rated movies contain content that shows how sex can be fun. Don't get me wrong sex is fun but it's also a learning experience that forms bonds and can either strengthen or wreck their relationship. The things we view on the big screen and all throughout media may seem like good resources for how to have "good sex," but in actuality this fantasy causes more harm than it does good for the relationship.
In wanting to educate oneself on how to "be better in bed," it is important to get information from the right resources that won't harm or ruin the relationship. In searching for good resources people will turn to fantasy, other relationships, visual references, and even other sexual relations. Every single one of these resources leads to ruining a relationship through infidelity. These four categories are generally the main reason that people get divorced.
Fantasy and Media
Everyday, millions of people get online and will use media like Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, snap chat, and even video games that connect people and allow them to chat. This connection with people and addiction to media allow people to build relationships between people. This isn't normally a bad thing to build connections with people, but it is and can become a bad thing when flirting comes into play. When your single flirting is fun and enjoyable, but its a bad thing when you are married. Soon you become so preoccupied with messaging a person that may or may not even be in the same country as you that the relationship with your spouse is suddenly gone and a divorce quickly follows as a lack of connection forms between the couple.
Other Seemingly Harmless Relationships
Like most people, it is sometimes easier and more fun to have friends of the opposite gender however these friendships can be the most dangerous to a relationship. We've all had that friend who was dating someone and you get dragged along with them because you become friends with the boyfriend or girlfriend. This friendship may seem harmless but to your friend this could be taken as a threat. This jealousy can cause so many problems and cause a separation to occur in the relationship and it can also lead to feelings shifting in the couple and soon your friend ends up with the boyfriend or girlfriend. In an even more extreme case, it causes the end of a once happy marriage.
Visual Distractions
Pornography destroys relationships. If you are in a relationship with someone who is currently experiencing a porn addiction, you need to get help right away. It is a serious addiction and can cause the most harm to a relationship. Your partner will constantly wonder if they are good enough or how could they compare to this beautiful figure that you lust for. If you are in a porn addiction, you are not ready for a real emotional connection that comes from meaningful and lasting relationships. It is heart breaking when you see someone with an addiction of this sort come into another's life and make them feel worthless because of this addiction.
Other Partners
Surprisingly, having other relationships or sexual relationships is the leading cause of infidelity. You may have heard the saying, once a cheater, always a cheater. This cannot be more true. Be wary of anyone who is willing to cheat on their supposed loved one. This could mean that they have more serious personal problems and it may do the individual good to be turned down every once in a while.
Marriage is a beautiful thing, I love seeing old couples that are still together after 30, 40 even 50 years of life together. Infidelity and sexuality are the leading causes of divorce. If anything is possible work on your relationship and make it last as long as possible!
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