Happily Ever After ... Is Not the End

You have found the one you want to spend the rest of your life with and you have begun to discuss a life together and gradually you start to enter into the stage of the relationship where rings are being talked about and wedding bells are in the air. If you are like most modern couples you have already picked out a venue and a date for the wedding. Then finally he manages to get the nerve and the date is set and he asks you to marry him! It's beautiful and your so happy and feeling all of the emotions. However, being engaged does not mean that you have made it or even being married is not the end of something good, but it has the potential to be the start of something oh so good.

When you are engaged and planning a wedding for real, you have to make some serious decisions. These decisions include how the wedding is going to be, as well as serious decisions pertaining to life after marriage, like where you are going to live, how you are going to provide for the relationship, and also all of the added decisions that need to be made in order to start your life off in the right way. As important as these decisions are, it is just as important how you go about making these decisions while you are engaged.

Often engagements will end because the couple does not go about making decisions in the right way. They either will not make the arrangements themselves or they will let their parents make all of the arrangements for them, if the parents are involved in over amounts with the planning of a marriage, it is more likely to fail. A big thing that leads to engagements ending is money. The more money you put into a wedding the more likely the marriage is going to end in divorce.

There are so many special events that happen with a couple. You'd often think that the big event is the wedding but actually the way a couple meets is even more special. The first date and the actual process of falling in love makes the marriage last longer. Personal speculation is that when things get hard in a relationship you tend to latch onto memories and want to remind the other about those good times and draw on that love again from the past.

Marriage is not easy, it is by no means easy and it is definitely not the beginning of a happily ever after, they are still going to experience some hardships but there are ways to work through it and get to be better.